Kissing Lessons

How do you kiss? How does your lover do it? Is there something you can learn about kissing? Many men and women complain that their lover doesn’t know how to kiss very well, and that their kissing actually turns them off. Kissing is one of the most sensuous, erotic and thrilling things couples can do together. It can be done just about anywhere. So, what’s to keep you from being a great kisser?

Our mouths, lips and tongues are alive with nerve endings. Voluptuous lips are one of the sexual stimuli that turn on both men and women. We wouldn’t love eating nearly as much if we didn’t like the texture of things in our mouths. Kissing has an erotic power over us and the better you are at it the more you’ll get kissed. The pleasure you can deliver and derive from kissing can be expanded to take on an importance of its own.

Lesson One: Wet your lips generously right now. Use your tongue and moisten them well. Put your lips together in an exaggerated pout. As you pout, rub the insides around on each other and feel the silkiness of your own inner lips. Imagine kissing that part of your mouth. Now, again exaggerating the pout, part your lips slightly so you can just suck a little air in through the opening. That is how your lips should feel when you are about to kiss someone: moist, juicy, voluptuous, open, and inviting.

Lesson Two: Kiss the back of your own hand as practice. You should leave a wet mark and make a small, seductive smack as you finish it. Slight suction can be felt when a full set of lips meets the skin. Attitude plays a big part in kissing, too. Are you being seductive and coy or lustful and aggressive? Practice different attitudes while sucking and kissing various exotic fruits, such as a mango, a peach or nectarine, or maybe papaya. Peel the skin away and practice different styles of kissing while you’re eating it. Nobody is going to see you, so go for it!

Lesson Three: Try recreating your first kissing experiences. Tell your partner that you want to practice with them. Pretend you know nothing. Ask for pointers. You want to be a great kisser! Surrender some of the time. Be aggressive at other times. Dance back and forth with soft, slightly open, moist full lips.

Lesson Four: Don’t introduce your tongue until after you’ve been kissing for a while. Wait until you and your lover yearn for it. When you do start tongue play, do be playful. Tickle and tease. Run the tip of your tongue around the inside of your lover’s lips. Give them a little tongue, then pull back and nibble at one lip. Run a finger erotically across their inner lips and then leave it in the corner of your mouths while kissing. This gives a sense of urgency to the deeper kisses and adds extra sensuousness to the act.

Sensuously introduce warm chocolate, juice, or a liqueur into your lover’s mouth before kissing. Share it back and forth. Lick the drips off of their lips in the most luscious way you can. Use your soft lips to kiss your lover’s body all over. Ears are highly erogenous, so kiss, lick, nibble, suck and bite an ear lobe and breathe softly into the ear. You can create even more sensual pleasure if you slip down and kiss and bite the neck. In Tantric practice the lower lip on the man provides a direct channel to his sexual organ’s excitement, so gently suck and kiss this exquisite area, too. Get creative and have fun!

How do you instruct a new lover in kissing? What do you like and what don't you like in a good kisser? Let me know!


Anonymous said...

I am a 26 year old guy. I started having my first serious relationship with a beautiful woman.

I imagined a lot of things about kissing. But when I really experienced it now, it kinda let me down. Its not erotic or sensual as I thought it would be. It's not bad, its okay. But I thought it would be great, but looks like its not that great a deal like people say it is. Or am I doing something wrong.

I tried all kind of kiss, kissing on lips, neck etc. My partner seems to enjoy it a lot and sometimes also makes sensual sounds. But i don't feel that much sensuality in a kiss. Do women enjoy kissing more than men do?


Suzie Heumann said...

Kissing is a very personal thing and it's a bit difficult to tell what's going on with you. Done right, though, I think kissing rates very high on a woman's list of erotic practices.
What size are your lips? I ask this because there is something about very full lips that make kissing extra special. Her lips may be on the smaller size which makes the kissing a little less squishy and sensual perhaps. Remember to really 'feel' your own lips and enjoy them. You are 'taking' kisses as well as giving them. Surrender to the sensual feelings. Relax instead of striving to kiss. Imagine yourself lost in the softness. Really visualize the sensuousness.